When Mom Feels Like A Failure

There are days when motherhood can seem pretty much impossible! Some days where you feel like you are doing everything WRONG and you just feel like a complete and utter failure! Sound about right?

 

Some days can be more challenging than others and mom burnout is real! Sometimes you lack the energy needed to meet everyone's need and lots not even talk about the lack of patience... These very feelings can make you feel like a failure as a mom, but I want to encourage you TODAY!!

You are yet human and you are allowed to feel human emotion such as fatigue, overwhelm, exhaustion, etc... 

The key though is overcoming the feelings of failure. 

You are Not a Failure.... You're a Mom! A Great Mom!

The truth is this you are NOT a failure! You are a mom trying her best to do it all and hold it all together everyday. In reality your perception of yourself as a failure fails in comparison to how your children (child) view you. 

 Your children do not care if your hair is messy, if the house is slightly in a disarray, if you're not wearing makeup, if they eat pancakes for breakfast and dinner, or if the all the mounds of laundry did not get folded today. Your children care about YOU and to them you are everything good in their world! 

They care about your presence, you being there for and with your children each day means everything to them. They don't see the mess, the chaos or the clutter. They see their mom in all her beauty! They see that you are theirs and they are yours and that's all that matters to them.

If only you could see yourself through their eyes... Boy oh boy would your days be different. 

 

Here are 3 Reasons WHY You Feel Like A Failing Mom: And How You Can Fix It

1. We Over Emphasize the Negative: Instead of pondering on all the good and positive things you do today and everyday, you find yourself focusing too much on the negatives or the things that have gone wrong. Another thing moms tend to do is over emphasize the issues of just ONE or TWO days. A bad day does not make you a bad mom. Refocus your thoughts and your day and God willing tomorrow is a new day. You CAN DO THIS!

I know sometimes I personally have felt like "today was a mess! Not much of a success" The kids cry, they fight, they complain, they need, they want, the dog acts a fool and you look around at the end of the day and think... Today I failed at this mom thing. Not so! You make it through each and everyday by the grace of God and no one is dead or seriously injured, so hey I call that I successful day! But seriously, you are not failing. My mom used to always say, "nothing beats a failure but a try" What does that mean? The only ones failing are the one's who never dared to try. Everyday you wake up and do this mom thing, you win! Your efforts are not in vain and you are not alone. We are with you precious mom! You got this and you're doing a great job so far. Keep going mama! 

2. We Set Our Expectations TOO High: So, what do you mean by this Adale? Let me explain... Often times we allow media and what we see in other people make us feel bad about our own situations. You do not have to have everything perfect according to anyone elses standards. Forget about the Pinterest post, forget about the display in the shopping mall. This is real life! And life is not always going to be set up like a Pinterest board. And that's OK.

3. Self Doubt: You feel as failure often times in motherhood when you begin to doubt your ability. Truth is we should be depending on God's ability to be strength in our weakness. People ask me all of the time "how do you do it!?" I simply reply "the help of the Lord is my help".  Shake off self doubt and continue on in doing all you know to do for your family. In those areas you know for a fact you need improvement, begin to ask God to help you in those areas and He will!